Sometimes it’s hard to support our friends. We really want to support our friends but their choices make us feel uncomfortable. In this story, a Reddit user SweetLollyMolly shared her experience.
This is the story of SweetLollyMolly, who wants to know whether she made the right decision by abandoning her friend’s home birth. She was asked to join a “birth circle” for her friend Sarah, who practices natural and holistic methods. However, OP felt uncomfortable with the birth and left.
When OP came on the day of the birth, she discovered Sarah giving birth quietly in a dark room. The OP had no idea Sarah intended to have a silent birth, and the actual situation made her extremely uncomfortable. Sarah kept quiet, even though she appeared to be in pain.
OP felt uneasy because they believed Sarah might be in pain but was attempting to be silent. After a little while, OP left because she didn’t feel comfortable staying there. Sarah became upset. She said that OP had abandoned her during an extremely memorable occasion.
Sarah and her friends believe OP should have stayed to support her. Now, the OP wants to know if leaving was a mistake.
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Source: SweetLollyMolly
1. Let’s find out
2. OP said her friend Sarah always liked natural things. When she got pregnant she decided to give natural birth at home. OP offered to help her with her home birth. Sarah was very happy to have OP being a part of her birth circle.
3. On the day of birth, OP arrived at Sarah’s house. Everything was quiet at the house. She asked Sarah’s husband where is Sarah. He pointed to the living room. Sarah was sitting in the dark corner of the room. She was in active labor but not making a single sound. OP felt very strange.
4. OP said her friend learned about the silent birth and decided to do the same. In this process, women try to stay quiet while giving birth to make it peaceful for the baby. OP’s friend didn’t mention this before. Everyone in the room was sitting quietly and OP had to do the same.
5. OP felt very uncomfortable. She thought her friend might be in pain but stayed quiet. After some time she left the room. When Sarah’s husband asked her OP explained she didn’t feel comfortable watching her friend like that. He understood her.
6. Later Sarah texted OP. She was angry with her because OP abandoned her in her special moment and broke the sacred circle.
Let’s find out what the AITA community said about this story:
7. Via RevRos: OP was unaware of the silent home birth situation. If her friend informed her then her feelings would be different.
8. Via MargaretSmith900: OP was trying to support her friend. But the silent birth situation made her uncomfortable.
9. Via Fine-Bread8772: Both OP and her friend are not wrong. Sarah had the choice of how she chose to give birth and at the same time, OP had the choice whether she stayed or not.
10. Via Limerase: OP was not at fault. Her friend didn’t tell her about the cult practice. It was too much for OP so she decided to leave.
