Imagine, you would leave one of these courses “Mom and me” with your grandchildren. One is on your hip, the other holds you by the hand and another is waiting for you to pick her up at school. You have a lot to do. Your toddler runs into the parking lot as you try to throw the newborn into his child seat.
Although you managed to catch it before it was too far without dropping your youngest baby, you fell, tore your pants, and scratched your knees. It’s one of those times when you just sit and cry. You are happy that your child is doing well, but you feel defeated and exhausted.
But then it happens. A woman of the class you barely know is sitting next to you. And she tells you that you do not do anything wrong with your parenting, it’s so difficult.
At that moment, you realize that it’s not your fault. They can strive day after day, but education can sometimes be complicated. As a mother, you often wonder what you are missing. Of course, this can not be so difficult. What do not I understand? All the other mothers seem to have it together.
But clarify something It’s not your fault.
If you’re trying to limit the time your kids spend on screens but you’re not showering any other way, call your family or get dinner, that’s fine. You do not have fake parents, it’s so difficult.
If you miss your partner’s love and affection but go to bed alone because you’re too tired to be romantic, that’s fine. You do not have fake parents, it’s so difficult.
If you spent most of the day washing, cleaning and tidying up, and still find your house is a nightmare at the end of the day, covered with toys, clothes and groceries, it’s perfect . You do not have fake parents, it’s so difficult.
If you have the ambition to run a marathon but you do not have time to train or even train, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you are familiar with newborns, if you have talked to the doctor and you still can not sleep with your child, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you listen to conflicting advice every day on the best path to the parent and you are so overwhelmed that you decide to make decisions yourself, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you spent the whole night waking up decorating for your child’s first birthday, carefully planning all the details and decorating them, just to cancel it completely because the baby got sick, it’s not serious. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you need to add more to your to-do list than what you’re done, then that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you like your career but have neither the time nor the patience that you use as usual, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you hate your career but can not go because you need social benefits and money, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you like to stay home with your children while defending your decisions against others, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you thought you’d like to stay home with your kids, it’s fine as you imagined. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
If you love your children so much that it hurts, but you also count the minutes before going to bed, that’s fine. You do not have false parenting, it’s so difficult.
Remember that in times when you feel that you have failed completely, you look at the rooms and see the biggest mother who only wants to protect and take care of her children. Others, including your children, can see you in a better light than you can see yourself.
Taking the time to have children is simply difficult.
Having time for your relationships when you have children is just difficult.
Having time to get anything done when you have children is just difficult.
Trying to pick the right career path when you have children is just difficult.
Sometimes it can all just be too difficult. Not because of what you’re doing wrong, but that’s just the nature of being a mother.
All that matters is that you keep parenting. Keep nurturing, keep tidying, keep loving and use your superpowers to keep going day after day. Mothering is the most difficult job on the planet, but you handle it with grace.
Ask for help or advice if you need it, be easy on yourself and know that you’re not the only one having a difficult time.
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