“If you love someone you don’t cheat. If you want to cheat set them free.”
I Just Want A Relationship Built On Honesty. No Lies. No Cheats.
The idea of being in a faithful and loyal relationship appeals to the vast majority of people. It would be odd to believe that somewhere in this world, there exists an individual who would want to be in a romantic relationship with someone who acts unfaithfully towards them. And although many people are against infidelity in relationships, sometimes, the definition of unfaithfulness and cheating can get lost in translation. Sometimes, what constitutes as cheating to some may not necessarily constitute as cheating to others.
Everything is a question of perspective. And when two people in a relationship are not on the same page as far as cheating is concerned, then that could prove to be disastrous and detrimental to the couple. Maybe it’s a physical intimacy that comes in the form of kissing, touching… For others, an act does not have to be physical in order for it to be considered unfaithful.
In fact, emotional cheating can be just as bad for many people as physical cheating. It might even be worse. Emotional cheating is when someone gets emotionally intimate with a third party. This emotional intimacy can be manifested in flirtatious advances, discussions of feelings and emotions, and others.
Many people seem to believe that there is a massive grey area that is present when it comes to cheating and unfaithfulness. But I do not think so. It’s pretty simple for me. It’s not complicated at all. For me, the line is visible to all. Either you are on the side of faithfulness or you aren’t. In my own humble opinion, being unfaithful means you doing something with another person that you would never do if your partner were there to witness it.
If you do something that you would not have done in the presence of your partner, then you are acting in bad faith. Of course, this can vary by certain degrees depending on what you’re doing and who you’re doing it with. But the truth remains. If you’re uncomfortable with doing something in front of your partner but you still do it behind their backs, it’s probably cheating.
Cheating can take its shape in the form of you staring into the eyes of another person for way too long. It can be you just exchanging flirtatious texts with someone. You may kiss someone on the cheek without your partner knowing it. It is the fact that you’re deliberately doing something that you would never do in front of your partner that constitutes cheating. You’re being DISHONEST in this act and that’s how you know that it’s bad.
You should only ever really conduct yourself with other people the way that you would whenever your partner is around. Otherwise, if you are holding back who you really are when your partner is present, and yet you persist to do all of these things behind their back, then that is a blatant show of dishonesty. That’s what I believe unfaithfulness looks like. To me, that is a blatant betrayal of trust that is forged within a romantic relationship. And that’s the kind of trust that is difficult to rebuild once it is broken.
One thing you need to know about me is that every relationship I am in always requires a sense of trust and honesty. One can not exist without the other. And there is certainly no love when there is no trust and no honesty at all. When you make a compromise, you end up compromising everything. And it’s not even just about cheating. It’s not just about whether you get romantically entangled with someone else or not.
It’s about being faithful to who you are, every time you’re with me. I want you to be your true self whenever you’re together. And I want you to be consistent with your character even when I’m not around. If you act a certain way whenever you are around me and then you turn around and act in a different manner, I see that as dishonesty. I see that as deceit. I see that as manipulation and I don’t want to have any part in it. I don’t want to allow myself to be made a fool of.
Being faithful in a relationship isn’t just you making sure that you keep it in your pants. It’s more than you just making sure that you don’t flirt with anyone else. Being faithful means you staying true to who you are. It means you actively choosing to love me and be with me every single day that we’re together. Being faithful means you always doing everything you can to get closer to me and to make sure that nothing ever comes between us.
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