One woman took to Reddit to share that her husband had missed the moment their baby was born. She wasn’t just angry that he basically blew off the birth of their baby — she was furious over who he was with when it happened: his female best friend. She wrote:
“My husband has this best friend, Anna. They’ve been friends for a long time and dated years ago, mutually deciding that its best for them to remain friends. I’ve had no problem with this relationship until now.
On the day that I gave birth, Anna’s brother got into a car a-c-c-i-d-e-n-t. My husband got a call from her in the middle of the night and asked him if he could drop her at the hospital her brother was at (an hour away from us) since she was too scared to drive. My husband agreed, told me quickly while I was half-asleep and rushed out.
A few hours later, I had contractions and called my husband. He didn’t pick up after multiple tries so I gave up and called my Dad, who drove me to the local hospital (12 minutes away). I was so scared of giving birth alone since I’ve had about 3 m-i-s-c-a-r-r-i-a-g-e-s and 1 still-born.
My husband promised me that no matter what, he’d be there for me. Guess what? He wasn’t. We called multiple times while I was in labor and when he finally picked up my Dad’s call when I was giving birth, saying that he’d misplaced his phone in the chaos, my Dad informed him that no matter how fast he drives anymore, he’s going to miss the birth of his child.
Well, my husband took that as “he’s already screwed up, so it doesn’t matter when he shows up at this point” so when he FINALLY came, our daughter was about 5 hours old and I’d already moved to the maternity ward.
When he came, I refused to let him see our baby (edit: did let husband hold and play with baby after discharge) because I was so high on emotions and was shaking when I saw him and didn’t want it negatively affect my time with the baby. I wanted her birth to be a happy time and I was already struggling to feed her.
My husband was in a bad state and told me to please let him see her, so I told him to stand by the window and held the baby up so he could see her. I told him to then leave and he’ll be allowed to interact with the baby at my father’s home when we’re both well and out of the hospital and that I was most likely divorcing him.
He starting bawling and apologizing and defended himself by saying that Anna’s brother was in serious critical condition and although he’s fine, Anna needed him. Though Anna’s parents were there, she’s not that close with them and she was in an unbearable state.
I told him that I didn’t care and that his daughter has already come second to him and all she did was be born. I’m putting my daughter’s and my health first and won’t let her be sidelined. My husband agreed and left. However, Anna called me later and said that I was being controlling and she’d never met someone as cruel as me for not letting a father see his baby. I told her that my husband made his decision and that this was his doing not mine.
But now, I can’t help feel cruel in my actions and feel like I’m depriving my baby of both her parents being together. My husband sees her a few hours each day now. AITA?”
If you were in this situation, what would you do?