Why people c.h.e.a.t on those they love

Although love is a complex phenomenon experienced in many ways, most people agree that it’s based on trust and respect. But what happens when we throw c.h.e.a.t.i.n.g into the mix—infidelity, even in loving, happy relationships. People can c.h.e.a.t on people they love. It’s sad but true. But infidelity doesn’t always mean a lack of love in the relationship or that it’s terrible or unfulfilling. This article lists why someone would c.h.e.a.t on a person they love.

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1. Strong Ⓢⓔⓧ Drive

Some people have stronger Ⓢⓔⓧ drives as compared to others while there are some people who are addicted to Ⓢⓔⓧ. So when their ⓢⓔⓧⓤⓐⓛ needs may not be met in a relationship, they may have an affair to get the ⓢⓔⓧⓤⓐⓛ satisfaction they’re not getting from the relationship. However, this is not a solution for either reason. To prevent infidelity, a couple should communicate their ⓢⓔⓧⓤⓐⓛ needs and wants to each other.

2. Diminished Intimacy

Intimacy is not just about s-e-x; it involves more than mere physical touch. If a person’s needs are not being met, they might go looking for that satisfaction somewhere else. However, this is not how you deal with a lack of intimacy in relationships.

Instead of looking for intimacy elsewhere, you have to talk to your partner, discuss your needs and what they do to bring that contentment back.

3. Neglect

Negligence in a relationship indicates the feelings of being disregarded or trivial when you do not feel like your partner’s precedence anymore. Some people look for attention from another person if they are not getting it from their partner.

Both partners require to give each other attention; otherwise, it can be seriously damaging for your relationship. Men need to know their efforts do not go unrecognized, while women need to feel appreciated and understood.

If you are not getting the attention you yearn for, communicate it to your partner.

4. Commitment Issues

Commitment issues may be the cause of many relationship problems including c.h.e.a.t.i.n.g. Commitment frightens some people away, and they ruin the relationship in the process to dodge the difficult way of breaking up.

People who struggle with commitment might be more inclined to cheat in some situations. Additionally, commitment does not imply the same thing to everyone.

It is reasonable for two people in a relationship to have very diverse views on the status of their relationship, such as whether it is exclusive, casual and so on.

Moreover, it is also likely that you might like someone and still be afraid to commit. In such cases, one partner may end up c.h.e.a.t.i.n.g as a way to bypass commitment, even if they really would want to stay in the relationship. Some other reasons might include:

– Lack of interest in a long-term commitment
– Seeking a more casual relationship
– Looking for a way out of the relationship

5. A Thirst for Change

Some people c.h.e.a.t when they want something distinct in their relationship or sense things have become a bit too complacent.

They might crave diversity in their s.e.x lives or perhaps some sort of adventure to counteract their everyday life.

6. Fun

Why do some people c.h.eat even if they love their partner? Although it’s normal to be attracted to or even lust after another person besides your partner, you’re crossing a red line when you decide to act on it. Sometimes, people get bored in long-term relationships and start c.h.e.a.t.i.n.g for fun.

7. Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem is a common problem with many people. Whenever a person with self-esteem issues starts feeling bad about themselves, they sometimes seek external validation. When they don’t get this from their long-term partner, they may seek out one who will make them feel better about themselves. And then dopamine is released—the neurotransmitter responsible for happiness.

8. Revenge

No matter what you call it, revenge or retaliation, this is a terrible way to display pain and anger. Resentment is the mindset of attacking the fire with fire, i.e., I’ll hurt you when you hurt me. In some relationships, one may become frustrated with their partner or resent them for something they’ve done wrong. So they decide to c.h.e.a.t on them to get revenge—toxic behavior that doesn’t bring any good to anyone, including the c.h.e.a.t.e.r.