The mom of a little girl with D.o.w.n syndrome wrote a letter to the doctor who told her to get an a.b.o.r.t.i.o.n

The mom of a little girl with D.o.w.n syndrome wrote a letter to the doctor who told her to get an a.b.o.r.t.i.o.n

Florida mom Courtney Baker expected no bumps on the road when she learned a third child was on her way.

“My first two pregnancies were so easy. I was expecting this one to be easy too,” she told CNN.

But a couple weeks later, her baby was prenatally diagnosed with Down syndrome.

Feeling “terrified, anxious and in complete despair,” the mom-to-be sought help from a prenatal specialist.

The doctor suggested an abortion. He told her how tough life would be tending to a child with the condition. He made her feel unsupported.

More than a year after Emmy’s birth, Baker decided to mail an emotional letter to the prenatal specialist. She shared the letter on the Facebook page of Parker Myles, a blog about raising children with Down syndrome.

Baker wrote that Emmy has become an integral part of her family, and that she is still “perfect” despite her condition.

Here is the full letter:

“Dear Doctor,

A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her child during her sonograms, he would comment, “He’s perfect.” Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said, “I told you. He’s perfect.”

Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend’s experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have had. I wish you would have been that doctor.

I came to you during the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious and in complete despair. I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we terminate our child. I told you her name, and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy.

From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth.

My child was perfect.

I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad. I’m sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual awe. I’m sad the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears don’t always give you pause. I’m sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I’m mostly sad you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.

Because, you see, Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life, she’s touched the hearts of thousands. She’s given us a purpose and a joy that is impossible to express. She’s given us bigger smiles, more laughter and sweeter kisses than we’ve ever known. She’s opened our eyes to true beauty and pure love.

So my prayer is that no other mommy will have to go through what I did. My prayer is that you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every sonogram. And my prayer is when you see that next baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother’s womb, you will look at that mommy and see me then tell her the truth: “Your child is absolutely perfect.”

Like Parker Myles for more stories of kids like Emmy.

Source:insider.com, edition.cnn.com, facebook.com

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