An anonymous British mother has shared how much she regrets having her baby in a brutally honest online post. She explained that she used to be a ‘vibrant and fun person but is now a shell of her former self’.
The new parent, who has a seven-month-old son, w.a.r.n.e.d other women that having a baby could ‘ruin your life’, detailing how she struggles with sleeping and wishes she could turn back time.
She said she couldn’t imagine being happy ever again in an emotional post on the parenting forum Mumsnet. She wrote:
“If you’re thinking of having a baby – don’t”
“Or do. But be aware it may ruin your life.”
“I love my son more than anything in the world, but I regret having a baby so much. It has absolutely destroyed my physical and mental health, and it’s impossible for me to envisage a time where I will ever be happy again.”
“I used to be a vibrant, interesting, fun person with a great family life and hobbies, purpose and fulfilment. I’m now a shell of my former self, my world is so, so small.”
“If I could hit a button and go back to a time before my son existed, without remembering him or knowing he existed, I would do it without hesitation. I regret having a baby so much and I wish with all my heart and soul I hadn’t done it.”
“My partner is amazing – he does so much for us both, way more than his fair share. But I can see what a burden I am to him by feeling this way and I am so so worried about the toll it takes on him, having to be a parent and also support me through this.”
A Lot of Mothers Came to Support Her, Sharing Their Own Stories
One mother sent out lots of love and well-wishes:
“He will be more enjoyable when he is older.
Lockdown babies must be sooooo hard.
You need a balance. Will you be back to work soon?
Go back to being yourself and just take him along in a sling where possible. Fit him into your life – dont revolve yours around him!”
“Oh poor you. It sounds like you are feeling terrible at the moment. I just wanted to say that doesn’t sound unfamiliar.”
“I love being a parent, my DD is 2.5 years old and I went through hell and back to get her here but I have definitely had lots of moments where similar thoughts have gone through my mind. I really didn’t enjoy the newborn stage at all. I just wanted to say, I do feel it gets better the older they get.”
One person sent a hug:
“Hey OP, hang in there! You’ve made it all the way to seven months so well done you! Sleep deprivation is appalling but he’ll hopefully start sleeping through by the ten-month mark and you’ll start to feel much more like your old self. Great if you could get some psychological support lined up soon too. Sending you a big hug ”
Source: Mumsnet, .dailymail.co.uk, relrules.com