Family relationships can be complicated. Especially when it is about someone’s last wishes. A Reddit user Such-Implement-2801 shared her story.
OP wrote that their sister passed away after a long illness and had particular wishes for her funeral. She did not want their brother John to attend her funeral and any of her ashes to be given to him. When they were younger, their relationship was rocky. OP’s sister tried to apologize later but John didn’t want to fix things up with her.
Even when she was dying, he made it clear that he was not interested in a relationship with her, which upset her. She decided that John should not attend her funeral if he were unable to stand by her when she was alive.
Unexpectedly John arrived at the funeral. OP asked him to leave because that was their sister’s last wish. Her brother got angry with her. He said she was being cruel because she was not letting him say goodbye to their sister. OP explained that she was simply following her sister’s last wishes.
John then left the funeral, he thought that OP was heartless. After that some other family members also criticized OP. They said that funerals are for living. OP should allow him to stay. But for OP it is more important to respect her sister’s wishes.
According to John, OP was being unfair, as she was not allowing him to have any of their sister’s belongings.
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Source: Such-Implement-2801
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2. OP’s sister passed away after a long illness. She left specific instructions. She did not want their brother John to attend her funeral or have any of her aches.
3. OP said when they were kids they fought a lot. But when they grew up their sister tried to fix things up between them. She apologized to John many times. But John did not want to make things right. He did not want to be close to his sister again.
4. Their sister got very sick. She requested that John pay her one last visit. But he refused. His cold behavior made her very upset. She decided that if her brother didn’t want to stand by her in her life, then he should not be at her funeral.
5. John arrived at the funeral. OP thought that their uncle told him about the time. According to their sister’s wishes, OP asked him to leave. John got angry with OP. He blamed her for being cruel for not letting him say goodbye to their sister.
6. Many family members also criticized OP. According to them, John should have been allowed to stay. They said funerals are for the living. OP explained that this was their sister’s last wish. John said OP is a big jerk for not letting him stay.
Let’s check out what the AITA community said about this story:
7. By Famous_Specialist_44: OP is not wrong for asking John to leave the funeral because he didn’t like his sister.
8. By Ready-Cucumber-8922: NTA. John had many chances to right things up with his sister, but he didn’t. He should not be allowed to attend her funeral, as he was not there when she was alive.
9. By queenuglyface: OP did the right thing. Their brother had time to say goodbye when she was alive. Now he is too late.
10. By Kaynico: OP is correct in that she is following her sister’s final wishes. She deserved to be remembered exactly how she wished. Only those who truly loved her should attend her funeral. Funerals should be held to honor the deceased rather than the living.
