One key difference between men and women is that women seem much more aware of what they want and need in a relationship, and they aren’t afraid to express it. On the other hand, men aren’t always so in tune with what they really need in order to feel loved and fulfilled in a relationship. The ones who actually are aware will seldom come right out and say it. This all makes sense from an intellectual standpoint. From an early age women learn to cultivate close relationships and they learn what makes them feel cared for and understood.
Male friendships don’t usually have the same depth and level of closeness, so men typically enter the realm of emotional awareness later in life, usually when they form relationships with women. This is exactly the reason why there are some secrets you will probably never know about him unless you ask.
A guy generally won’t ask for what he needs because a lot of the time, he doesn’t even know what it is. However, when you give it to him, it feels amazing. He will feel both appreciated and loved, and he comes to love you even more. With that in mind, here are five things guys secretly love to hear and hope you will tell them, but will seldom ask for.
1. “How are you?”
Men don’t open up about their problems quickly. Sometimes you have to force them a little, with love, to make them feel comfortable and give them space to talk about their day or problems. A little nudging can be positive and healthy sometimes. Women often need to remind their companions that it is okay to put your thoughts on the table, you will understand and support them. They are not alone when they have you as their life partner.
2. “I feel safe with you”
This one takes us back to the basics. Remember that a man is programmed to always want to take care of you and protect you. When you express that you feel safe with him, he is reassure that he’s being a good partner and doing his job in making you feel safe and secure. When you say these things, he falls in love with you a little more, too. Tell him what he needs to hear on a regular basis. It strengthens the relationship in ways you could never imagine.
3. “I believe in you”
Once in a while when your partner is feeling low and is having tough times at work, you should let him know that no matter what the circumstances are you believe in him. He will love the support offered b you. These words will soothe him and motivate him to fight against all the odds. He should know that his ladylove will believe in him despite his shortcomings and imperfections.
4. “Let’s head out to the town tonight”
Women enjoy when men plan out a date for them. They expect men to take the first step. However, if the roles are reversed, and women make the initiative and plan a date or a hangout together with their partners, men will be elated. They will feel exceptional and appreciate this lovely effort done for them. Men do not need expensive gifts to be happy, they feel satisfied with the little steps taken to make them think that someone cares about them.
5. “You’re the one I want”
Saying this to your man is the best way to remind him that he’s the only one you want. He might not tell you, but every guy is going to feel insecure at one time or another and it can be a nasty feeling. Make him feel needed, wanted and loved. Reaffirm that you are truly committed to him by saying this and making small gestures as often as you can.
6. I love you more than anyone else
Nobody likes to share their lovers with anyone. So let a guy know that he is the only one you love, and you love him more than anything is essential. He will not only feel special but will also feel satisfied that his girl will not love anything and anyone more than him. It will surely give him butterflies. A couple should never miss out on any chance to express their love for each other. It keeps the relationship healthy and sound.
Sources: amazinglovequotes.org, relrules.com