10 Times You Need to Be Quiet in Life

A lot of people don’t realize that sometimes it is better to be silent than to talk and below are listed the main situations when you need to be quiet instead of voicing your opinion out loud.

1. When you don’t have the necessary facts

Harlan Ellison, one of history’s most prolific writers, once said “You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” You may or may not agree with Ellison’s sentiment, but speaking about a topic of which you have no facts or evidence may well be perceived as absentmindedness.

If it’s a sensitive issue, we’d do well to hold our tongue until we know all the facts.

2. When you have a sense you’ll be ashamed

You should never take impulsive decisions knowing that after them you will be ashamed. It is simply not worth it.

3. When you have a feeling the words will hurt

In the midst of a heated discussion, most (all?) of us have said something that unfairly hurt someone else. Being honest with ourselves, we felt the aftereffects of the words before they were said. In other words, we knew the sting that those words would produce – and said them anyway.

When tempers are high, our talk-to-quiet ratio should be low. Speaking of which…

4. When it’s not our place to speak

The truth is that focused, fully attentive listening (i.e. active listening) is rare. Too many people would rather be heard than hear – and this is something that can kick us in the rear in every part of life.

Understanding and being skilled in active listening can lead to new insights, expand knowledge, and improve our relationships.

5. When we have nothing to say

It’s ironic that “uncomfortable silence” is unbearable, but small talk is a social skill. Chatter among friends is nice, but why should we feel obliged to say something when there is nothing?


6. When you’re trying to change a related behavior

Understanding and making an attempt to break a bad habit is a noble act. Changing our behavior can also be quite difficult at times. Habits often repeat themselves because we don’t actively watch and intervene.

When it comes to changing how we speak to ourselves and others, an influx of conflicting thoughts and feelings will arise. It is important to remain silent until we’re able to regain control.

7. When you’re being taunted

Nobody is immune to not being liked for no good reason. Nobody is immune to bullying, even as we age. There’s not one good reason to respond to anyone whose objective is to taunt you. You have the self-control to end a conversation – use it.

8. When you could be doing something productive

Why are you chattering 100 words a second about nothing-in-particular when you could more wisely invest this time? Unsurprisingly, engaging in a random conversation is a common means of avoiding responsibilities.

What could you be doing instead that will better your life?

9. When your negative emotions are high

Once again, there is no unwritten law that you must speak to people. There is certainly no unwritten law that says you must talk to people when in a bad state. As mentioned, negative emotions have a way of clouding our judgment – and this can lead us down a path we don’t want to go.

10. When your words will poorly reflect on someone

Speaking about someone with intent to inflict harm upon their character is a foolish act. It’s a no-win situation. This is particularly the case when this “someone” is a spouse, relative, friend, or colleague.

If a problem exists between you and someone else or vice-versa, take it up with them personally. Rise above the negative talk and show some character.

Source: powerofpositivity.com

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