10 Signs That You’re Really The Toxic One In Your Relationship

A toxic partner can drain you emotionally and hurt your mental health. But what if you’re the toxic one in your relationship?

No one is perfect and the same applies to relationships. Imperfection is absolutely normal but toxicity is not. If imperfection can incentivise you to grow and change, toxicity can drain you emotionally and leave you with negative thoughts.

It’s always easier to blame someone else for being toxic but you need to introspect too. What if you’re the villain in your own relationship? We need to examine our own behaviour and patterns. At times, it so happens that we’re the toxic one but simply refuse to accept it. But, there’s no shame in accepting it because being aware of things will be the first step to change.

Ask yourself if you relate to these 10 signs of a toxic romantic partner and be honest with the answers

1. Being controlling

Being bossy and being controlling are two terms that are often used together as if they are the same thing but, in reality, they are very far from each other. There is a certain line that has to be drawn. When you are controlling, you are constantly trying to gain power over another person which is as toxic as it gets.

2. Not respecting their privacy

We are all guilty of snooping around our partner’s phones sometimes but if it gets to a point of not respecting their privacy, like going through their email or text on a daily basis, it gets problematic. If you have any concerns, talk to them, but in no way it is okay to invade their privacy!

3. Always wanting things your way

It is absolutely okay to want your way sometimes in a relationship but sometimes it gets to a point of manipulation and that is one of the most toxic thing that you can do. There is another person involved, and you must respect their wishes in a relationship as well. You can’t only care about the things that you want and it isn’t fair to only do things to get your way and no other way at all. Compromise is very important in a relationship!

4. Changing them as a person

This must not be confused with you wanting your partner to do something, but then wanting them to change completely, as a person, just to suit your ways is a very toxic thing to do.

5. Only your needs matter

When you are with someone, it is your duty to remember their needs and realize that those needs are as important as yours. When only your needs matter, you are being toxic in the truest sense of the word.

6. Telling them how to feel

You have no right or place to tell your partner how they should feel about something according to your convenience. This is a very subtle and internal way of gaslighting. You are being extremely toxic when you are constantly invalidating your partner’s feelings and emotions. It is not up to you to decide what and how they should feel.

7. Emotional withholding

When your partner is going through a rough patch and needs some tender lovin’, if you are knowingly withholding the affection from them, you are being toxic. A relationship is based on mutual love and affection, and if you are intentionally holding it back, you are being extremely toxic.

8. Emotional manipulation

If you release the waterworks the moment you feel like things are not panning out the way you want, you are not being emotional, but extremely manipulative. If you guilt trip your partner into doing or not doing things you want, you are being toxic and making them feel like they are.

9. They are constantly scared of upsetting you

If your partner ever says that they are always scared of upsetting you because you never know how you will be reacting to certain things on certain days and they always have to gauge your mood to make sure there are no outbursts, you are being extremely toxic and harmful.

10. Emotional and physical a.b.u.s.e

It is unacceptable to hit your partner under any circumstances. It is the most prominent form of toxicity. A.b.u.s.e can be emotional too, and hence, it is not okay to hurl whatever at your partner because you must remember that they are as human as you are.